And in this case, losing your shirt is NOT a good thing at all. See, when you lose that confidence and that edge with a woman, then you are going to lose her attraction to you as well. You don’t want to end up being one of those guys that spends lots of money and still ends up going home alone at the end of the night, do you?

Here are some dating tips for men that should help to keep that edge and woo a woman right to YOU:

1. A woman is NOT going to fall for you because you spend X amount of dollars on her. Unless she is a true to the bone gold digger, then this is not going to make you appear to be any more attractive in her eyes. You need to realize that spending money on a woman is not what makes her want you, so keep that wallet where it belongs. Closed and in your back pocket.

2. To make her want to go home with you, she NEEDS to feel sexually excited by you. This is why so many men end up messing it up and going home alone. They talk nice and polite to a woman all night long and they are the perfect gentleman. But, they never once dare to make her feel sexually excited. Well, if you don’t do this, then there is no reason for her to want to go home with you, is there?

3. She needs to feel like the moment is JUST RIGHT. And you can kind of make her feel that way just by doing some key things to attract her. One such thing is to create a STRONG feeling of rapport with you. When you do this, you can make her feel like she has known you for a long time, even if it has only been for a part of the night. This makes her a LOT LESS hesitant to want to end the night with YOU!

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Although it is a little risky, there are also advantages of dating some you know for years. If you can master how to date a friend, it can also be exciting and fun and you may not have a hard time having fun and enjoying your dates because you have already known each other for years – although you may not be able to feel those ‘butterflies-in-the-stomach moments’ because you have practically shared comfortable times together.

One thing good about dating a friend is that if you both have mutual feelings that you like each other and you both are looking into possibilities of being more than friends. Sometimes friends can develop these feelings after some time of hanging out together. In this case, learning how to date a friend can be a little easier than starting from the very beginning.

Whatever is your situation, here are 3 steps on how to date a friend and be successful in your quest to finally make her your lover.

(1) Think twice. If you want to date your friend, be sure you are sure about what you are feeling. Is it just admiration? Is it just physical attraction? Do you really see a potential partner in your friend? Do you accept her flaws and her not-so-good attitudes? Indeed, dating a friend is risky because it can lead to losing the friendship. If the relationship leads to a breakup, you have to consider as well that the friendship will never be the same as before if ever you decide to remain friends.

(2) Take your time. If you have finally decided that you want to pursue your feelings towards your friend and you are willing to take the risk, do not surprise her by pouring out your feelings right then. Most often, this will not give you good results. Do not be so engrossed with what you feel. Find hints if your friend is also having that feeling towards you. As mentioned earlier, the best situation you can have is if your friend also has the same feelings for you. Drop hints, use body language and do not rush.

(3) Be her lover, not her friend. If you want to be her lover, act as one. Start bringing her to more romantic dates. Treat her to some fun and romantic activities that you would most likely bring a date. If she has seen how you are as a friend, this time, you can show her how you are as a lover. Start giving her compliments and make her feel special. If she enjoys going out with you, the thought of having you as a lover may come to appeal to her.

The basics of how to date a friend actually lies on having her to like you not as a friend but as a lover, even without telling her about your feelings. Of course, you know your friend, so you can find many ways to show her that.

About the author

Carolyn Anderson is a freelance author who loves to write and share useful resources about relationship and dating. To learn more on how to date a friend, check out Friends Into Lovers. Also check out Friend to Girlfriend Secrets, an ultimate guide making a your friend your girlfriend.

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W.H. Auden mentioned, A false enchantment can all too easily last a lifetime. First love could happen at any age. Rosemary Rogers said, First romance, first love, is something so special to all of us, both emotionally and physically, that it touches our lives and enriches them forever. On the other hand, George Bernard Shaw held that first love is a little foolish and a lot of curiosity. Memories of first love are always delicious. Very few experiences in our lives are as intense and overwhelming as our first love.

First love in teenage is much more fierce than the first love in adulthood. However, the teenage love usually evaporates very fast. A survey result reveals that first love relationships last only for 3 or 4 months for persons at the age of 15. Psychologists identify the 3 phases of first love as lust, attraction, and attachment. The close intimacy developed during the period of first love must necessarily involve openness, trust and a sharing attitude. This would lead to maturity and help the relationship last longer.

Normally first love is not the childhood infatuation on a teacher or a movie star. It is the first relationship or attraction of a romantic nature experienced in adolescence. Memories of first love are mostly fond ones but in certain cases, the memories could be highly painful also. Those who had experienced feelings of happiness, enthusiasm, excitement, and pride in their first love are much more likely to have stable, enduring relationships in their later lives. On the other hand, those who went through feelings of shame, guilt, hostility or fright during their first love tend to have weak relationships with others.

Even though it is true that we could fall in love any number of times in our life, the memories of first love would always remain fresh and occupy a special place in our hearts. A Turkish proverb says that young love is from the earth, and late love is from heaven. When we are young, we have high energy levels and our hormones are on overdrive. This could lead to an exhilarating feeling but there are dangers if emotions are not properly controlled at this stage. The obvious dangers are premature pregnancy, HIV, drug addiction, etc. Still, one danger that most people never consider is a wrong relationship. Unless you are clear as to what you expect from your first love, you might end up only with a sad experience.

In the initial stages of first love, we tend to ignore our own needs and desires and give priority to the wants of the other person. However, as time passes by, this becomes more and more difficult to practice and resentment or anger sets in. This leads invariably to parting of ways. Hence, it is important to analyze all the positive and negative aspects of the other person and evaluate them deeply before deciding whether you are really in love with that person.

Psychologists hold that love at first sight is quite possible. However, first sight love purely depends on our mental status at that particular moment. It might take only 30 seconds to decide whether the other person is really worth falling in love with. Psychologists say that men fall in love first more than women do. When we fall in love, we unconsciously wish to complete our personality and therefore, we look for qualities in the other person that we feel we lack. To a certain extent, men look for the qualities of their mothers in women they like to fall in love with. Same way, women also seek qualities of their fathers in men they wish to love.

We have to remember that we are emotionally virgins until we fall for the first time in love. Hence, the first love tends to have a much greater effect on our lives, whether we admit it or not. It is very difficult to be prepared for first love because it is a sudden experience. The emotional experiences that go with first love are very strong. We have to learn to understand them, sort them out and control them. Feelings of passion, elation, sincerity, anxiety, fear all come in a mixed fashion. If the first love ends on a happy note, then it poses no further problems. On the other hand, if the first love fails for any reason, the legacy that it leaves behind could be painful. We have to learn our lessons from that to have much healthier relationships in our later part of life.

For many people, first love is their work. For such persons, the emotional attachment to their profession is very strong. They usually tend to ignore other human relationships or take them in a lighter vein. Most of them remain single in their life, devoting themselves totally to their work, which is their passion.

Source: http://www.love-sessions.com

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To help curb the consumer in you, we’ve come up with a few of admittedly drastic savings strategies, along with some ballpark figures of their savings potential. (If you’re looking for a real no-brainer way on how to save money, arrange to have a certain amount of your paycheck automatically deposited into a savings account. Then, sit back and watch it grow.)

• Hold the mother of all garage sales. Cast a critical eye on the stuff at the way back of your closets. If you haven’t used it in six months, chances are you can do without. Same goes for all that junk in storage. (See “The hidden costs of too much stuff.” ) Annual savings? Depends on how much junk you have, of course, but one coworker guessed he had at least $5,000 worth of stuff he could get rid of. I’d put my own garage sale potential down at around $1,000. Thats a good number.

• Quit smoking. Pack-a-day habit? In Washington state, that’s easily $5 a day — or about $1,800 a year — that can go right into your savings, not to mention what it saves you on insurance and health care.

• Tame your driving addiction. In other words, carpool or use public transportation. This saves on gas, insurance and maintenance costs — not to mention any money spent on aspirin. Using the IRS’s 2002 mileage reimbursement rate of 36.5 cents per mile as a proxy for the cost of commuting, you could save $1,141 a year by driving half the time for 50 weeks a year (based on a 25-mile roundtrip commute). For an even more drastic approach, consider getting rid of your car if you live in the city. Some cities are now implementing progressive programs that allow you to have access to a car without the ownership hassles (e.g. “Flexcar” in Seattle, Portland and Washington, D.C. For more on Flexcar, see link at left.)

• Buy used. The average consumer spends about $1,750 a year on clothing and its upkeep, according to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics’ most recent Consumer Expenditure Survey. You can potentially cut that in half by shopping at consignment shops and auctions, though the life of the goods may be less than buying new. To account for that, the annual savings may only amount to 25%, or $437.

• Become a homebody. At just over $1,800 a year on average, entertainment spending has a way of quickly eating through the best-planned budgets. Consider the library for books, music and movies. Eat out less often. The average person spent $2,276 a year on eating out in 2002. Try cutting your spending in half on both areas for annual savings more than $1,900.

• Cut your housing expenses. While a move across the tracks may save some money, moves are expensive in themselves. Consider renting out a room. The average housing costs per person in 2000 were just over $13,200. In metropolitan areas such as Seattle, rooms easily go for $400 a month. Figure about $20 of that goes to increases in utility costs, and you’ve still got an annual savings of more than $4,000 before any income taxes.

• Cut up your credit cards. Build an emergency fund first to handle most unexpected expenses. This allows you to become your own lending agency. (OK, if you’re chicken, try cutting up all but one.) Credit cards can be a cash-flow management tool, but paying only the minimum will keep you in debt for years. If you’re the average American with at least one credit card, you probably have close to $8,523 in credit card debt, according to industry research group CardWeb.com. At an average APR of 14.4%, it could cost you as much as $1,100 a year in interest alone. By simply waiting until you’ve saved enough money to make purchases, you could eliminate those interest payments entirely.

Money management is not really hard to implement but you have to be goal-oriented person with the drive to accomplish what you want. There are also a lot of money saving expert individuals or companies that you can get advice from. Check this site for more saving tips http://www.chickencount.com/

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Be Confident

I’d give this same advice to old daters too, but it’s especially important when you’re young. Everybody is a little self-conscious and insecure, so it’s good to begin cultivating confidence when you’re young.

Having confidence can make you seem more attractive and more mature.

Better yet, confidence is infectious. If you’re confident, the person you’re going out with will usually become more confident in the date as well, and you’ll both end up having a lot more fun.

Be Yourself

When you’re out on a date, it’s sometimes tempting to try to overly impress your date. Don’t fall into this trap. Just be yourself.

This person wouldn’t have agreed to going out on a date, if they weren’t interested in you.

So, be honest and true to yourself. You’ll have more fun, and it’s a lot less work than trying to be someone you’re not.

Have Fun

Speaking of fun, have some!

Dates are all about having fun while getting to know someone. A lot of adults pretend like they are having fun on a date, but, in reality, not many do.

That’s because too many people plan boring dates, or are too concerned about how they are projecting themselves, to have any fun.

Don’t do what they do. Plan you’re date around a fun activity that you’ll both enjoy. And, then, don’t let the idea of a date stress you out. Just enjoy yourself.

Communicate Clearly

Out of all the dating tips for teens, this is the most important. In any relationship, but especially young, romantic relationships, it’s important to be able to express yourself clearly and honestly to your partner.

If your parents have certain rules you need to follow, make sure your date knows about them, so you can plan accordingly.

If your date knows ahead of time that you can’t ride in stranger’s cars, or that you have to be home by 10:00pm, then you can avoid getting in awkward situations later on in the date.

An open, honest line of communication is key. If you like your date, make sure they know that. If you don’t, let em’ down easy.

Also, it’s important to be clear with your date if you ever feel uncomfortable, or if you think your expectations for physical affection might be different.

Group Dating

Another valuable dating tip for teens, is to consider group dates. Going on a date while having mutual friends around, is a great way to ease into the world of dating.

With friends around it’s a lot easier to be yourself and loosen up. Once you and your date start to feel more comfortable with each other, you can plan dates that are a little more intimate.

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Few days ago, I have been looking at different sites offering free wordpress templates and then I discovered WPrex.com It has a collection of nice and professional looking templates. The beauty of this site is that you can grab any of the templates without logging in or any hassle. So what are you waiting for? Go to Wprex.com and download wordpress templates now!

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Google Voice gives you a separate phone number which you can give out as if it is your regular phone number. You can then change your settings to have calls forward to any of your phones.

You can forward to one group of phones during the day and another at night. You can have calls from certain numbers forward differently than calls to other numbers. You can block spamming callers and send some calls straight to voice mail.

You can send yourself an SMS message or an email whenever you get a voice mail message, and you can check your voice mail from the Web or from your phone.

As of this writing, Google Voice is limited to users within the USA.

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Acquainting yourself with this research can pay rich dividends to any job-hunter, and especially if your job-hunt is running into trouble. Let me illustrate what I mean.

Most job-hunters think there are basically only three ways to go about their job-hunt: resumes, ads, and agencies. Actually, there are fourteen:

1. Using the Internet to look for job-postings or to post one’s own resume. (1%)

2. Mailing out resumes to employers at random. (7%)

3. Answering ads in professional or trade journals appropriate to your field. (7%)

4. Answering local newspaper ads. (5-24% depending on salary demands)

5. Going to private employment agencies or search firms. (5-24% depending on salary demands)

6. Going to places where employers come to pick out workers, such as union hiring halls. (8%)

7. Taking a Civil Service exam. (12%)

8. Asking a former teacher or professor for job-leads. (12%)

9. Going to the state/Federal employment service office. (14%)

10. Asking family members, friends, or professionals you know for job-leads. (33%)

11. Knocking on the door of any employer, factory, or office that interests you, whether they are known to have a vacancy or not. (47%)

12. By yourself, using the phone book’s Yellow Pages to identify fields that interest you, then calling employers in those fields to see if they’re hiring for the kind of work you can do. (69%)

13. In a group with other job-hunters, using the phone book’s Yellow Pages as above. (84%)

14. Doing what is called “the creative approach to job-hunting or career-change”: doing homework on yourself, to figure out what your favorite and best skills are; then doing face-to-face interviewing for information only, at organizations in your field; followed up by using your personal contacts to get in to see, at each organization that has interested you, the person-who-actually-has-the-power-to-hire-you (not necessarily the human resources department). (86%)
There are five interesting things about this list:

1. Researchers have discovered ‘the effectiveness rate’ of each of these methods.

By which I mean, we now know how often each method ‘pays off’ for the job-hunters who use that method to hunt for a job. Those figures in parentheses above are the effectiveness rate.
2. We know the failure rate of each of these methods.

That is, how often they don’t ‘pay off’ for the job-hunters using that method. This failure rate is found by simply subtracting each effectiveness rate, above, from 100. You can do the math.

3. I listed the fourteen methods above in inverse order to their effectiveness.

That is, researchers have discovered that method #1 above is the least effective way to conduct your job-hunt, while method #14 is the most effective way.

4. Generally speaking the effectiveness rate for each method is directly proportional to how much work that method requires of you.

That is to say, method #1 requires the least work, but it is also the least effective; method #14 requires the most work, but it is also the most effective.
5. You want to use more than one method, but less than five.

Researchers discovered that one third of all job-hunters never find a job because they give up too soon. And the ones who give up most easily are the ones who are using only one job-hunting method (such as sending out resumes).

51% of those who use only one method of job-hunting abandon their job-hunt by the second month. On the other hand, of those who are using two or more methods, only 31% abandon their search by the second month.

Does this mean that you should try to use all fourteen methods, if your job-hunt just isn’t working? Not exactly. As I said earlier, it is amazing what we know about the job-hunt.

Researchers discovered that job-hunting success increases with each additional method you use, but only up to four methods. If you use five or more of the fourteen methods listed above, job-hunting success starts to decrease.

I have pondered this bizarre finding, and concluded that the explanation may lie in the fact that you can give up to four methods the time each deserves, but if you try to do five or more, you start cutting too many corners.

Well, there it is. Some of what we know about the job-hunt. The moral for your next job-hunt? Don’t just use one method, such as resumes, or ads. Use up to four methods, and especially those that pay off the best.
And give thanks for our friends, the researchers!

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Indeed it’s been a trial to have gotten to this point, having put up with such things as unanswered emails, those ever-popular (but rarely solicited) x-rated body shots, or those premature invitations to move to the next level (the sex level) before you even exchanged names. But it is at this pivotal time that you must remain focused on the goal that originally motivated you to join those sites: to find someone worthy of inclusion in your life, and have them acknowledge their belief that you, too, are worthy of inclusion in theirs.

To help assure success in attaining your goal, it’s important that you treat this face-to-face meeting with the same excitement and planning that drove your original goal. You must devote equal diligence to this face-to-face meeting. I know, it’s been tough and you’re feeling road weary from your journey; but now is not the time to show that weariness to the person who could turn out to be the one you hoped was hiding among the mire.

So, what are two key elements to remember at this critical time?

Enthusiasm: Even if you’re feeling road weary from your journey thus far, you have to muster up the same enthusiasm for this date that you had when you first sat down to create your dating profile. You were excited at the thought of revealing some inner secrets about yourself, right? Well, this first face-to-face should be treated with equal enthusiasm. You and another person are about to perform the human ritual of slow self-disclosure. That, in itself, should always be exciting. So greet your date with excitement in your eyes and smile.

Preparation: Again, as with the amount of time you dedicated to your online profile, making certain the words and images represented who you truly are, you must also spend preparing for this important first date. You wouldn’t put a picture in your profile of you with two-day old unwashed hair, right? Why do it now? You can manage the agreed upon time to meet to make certain it coincides with you having enough time to prepare in advance. So take the time to wash your hair and pick a killer outfit (while also making certain it’s appropriate to the time and place of the meeting)

It’s that easy. And if for whatever reason there is not a second date, you won’t be wondering “if only I’d washed my hair.”

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2. A little soft music always gets the mood going.

3. Invest in soft, comfortable sheets. Don’t forget soft towels, too!

4. Candles give a soft, inviting glow to the bedroom.

5. Try slipping into a satin robe and showing a bit of skin at a time instead of the full monty.

6. Kiss your lover for five minutes. That’s right – FIVE! Not just a peck or a quickie.

7. Heat things up by reading a sexy story to your partner.

8. Talk about your fantasies. What do you want most?

9. Talk about fantasies you would never try, too. It’s fun to share what’s on your mind!

10. Give your partner a long, gentle massage.

11. Invest in massage oil candles – they heat up the oil just enough.

12. Better yet, try edible massage oil, so you can kiss your lover’s skin while you caress it.

13. Choose your perfume or cologne carefully. Choose what you know your lover likes.

14. Don’t talk about everyday life when you’re in the bedroom. The bills and the kids can wait!

15. Try putting a colored lightbulb into the bedside lamp. Red casts a sensual glow.

16. Be prepared with a small basket of necessities by the bed – lube, vibe, condoms, etc.

17. Blindfold your lover and make him guess what you’re going to do next.

18. Lay back, put your hands over your head, and invite your lover to ravish you.

19. Pop a strong mint into your mouth before you go down on your partner – the better to tingle!

20. Keep a glass of ice water by the bed for refreshment.

21. You could also use the ice as a toy.

22. Try bondage! Use soft scarves if you’re shy, handcuffs if you’re not.

23. Watch a naughty video together and imitate what you see on the screen.

24. Challenge each other to be completely silent during sex. Place bets on who will speak first!

25. Challenge each other with dirty talk. Can you be filthy enough to make your lover speechless?

26. Use a rose to trace patterns all over your lover’s body.

27. Experiment with pillows to find new and interesting positions.

28. Breathe deeply with your lover – try to match the pace of your breathing with his.

29. Wear high heels to bed. Don’t take them off!

30. Put on masks while you’re making love and pretend you are other people.

31. Put soft gloves on your hands while you make love. Your partner will love the new sensation.

32. Slick your bodies with baby oil before you go at it.

33. Get silly – ask your Magic 8 Ball sexual questions.

34. Set up a digital camera to take shots of your lovemaking.

35. Want to be even more adventurous? Set up the video camera.

36. Place a mirror right beside the bed so you can see the action from different angles.

37. Put on deep red lipstick right before you go down on him.

38. Try out some flavored lubes or lubes made specifically for oral sex.

39. Perform a striptease. Use the bed post as your “pole.”

40. Ask your lover to put on a striptease for you and praise his every move!

41. Perform in another way – masturbate for your lover.

42. Break out the vibrator and tease your lover with it.

43. Hop in the shower and make love in there – be careful of the slippery soap!

44. Invade the refrigerator. Whipped cream isn’t just for pies, you know.

45. Whisper into your lover’s ear after lovemaking.

46. If you have long hair, kneel over him and brush the strands all over his body.

47. Do you use condoms? Opt for flavored ones and try to guess the color.

48. Edible body paints turn your bodies into creative canvases.

49. Write erotic stories for each other and read them aloud.

50. Come to bed wearing leather – the surprise will turn him on!

51. Take it out of the bedroom. To the kitchen table, perhaps?

52. Give that backyard picnic table a shot – at night, of course, so the neighbors don’t see.

53. Ask your lover to lie down and then touch him everywhere – with only one fingertip.

54. Go a step farther – touch him with only your breath.

55. Learn how to give a deep muscle massage and rock his world with your skills.

56. Shave your genitals for your lover. If he’s up for it, shave his, too.

57. Put a temporary tattoo in a place where only your partner will see it.

58. Write your name on your lover’s body with a permanent marker.

59. Play strip poker – it’s an old cliché, but hey, it works!

60. Look around your house for items that double as sexual objects. (Toothbrushes! Lotion bottles!)

61. Make love in the bathtub. The swirling water is a huge turn-on.

62. Role-play with your lover. Choose your parts and play them to the hilt!

63. Give your lover a paddle and ask him to spank you with it.

64. Make a point of foreplay – but without intercourse. Do this until you can’t take it anymore.

65. Describe how your lover’s body looks. Go into great detail.

66. Get tipsy. Everything feels different after sharing a few drinks.

67. Take control. Drop to your knees the moment he walks through the door and suck him off.

68. Play “hide and seek” with a tiny piece of chocolate…make him explore your body to find it!

69. Ask him to take naughty pictures of you. Pose for him in your best lingerie.

70. Shop for toys together. You can do it online for privacy.

71. Explore what a cock ring does to him. Try it out in all positions!

72. Become his dessert plate. Arrange bite-size fruits on your body and let him feast.

73. Take a class in belly dancing and surprise your lover with your sensual moves.

74. Draw a “bullseye” on your body with a pen and ask your lover to “hit” it when he climaxes.

75. Write down all your desires. Work down the list and fulfill one every night.

76. Hold your lover down while you make love to them. The possessiveness is a turn-on!

77. Look into a sex swing or other device that will make the bedroom a jungle gym.

78. Dress up for your lover in your finest attire – only to take it off one slow inch at a time.

79. Wear flavored body lotion to bed.

80. Run a feather all over your lover’s body.

81. Offer your lover something you haven’t done before.

82. Nibble on your lover’s body. Start out gentle, but use more pressure if he really likes it.

83. Read through the Kama Sutra together.

84. Let your lover dress you – open your lingerie drawer and let him choose what you wear.

85. Wrap yourself in nothing but a big red ribbon and present yourself at the door.

86. Surprise your lover at work wearing nothing but a trench coat.

87. Let your lover watch you play with a vibrator or dildo.

88. Go online together and join an adult forum. Let your alter egos get down and dirty with others!

89. “Pick up” your lover at a bar and invite him back to the hotel room for steamy sex.

90. Record your sexual adventure and download it onto his MP3 player for later listening.

91. Make love standing up.

92. Go outside in a thunderstorm and have sex in the rain.

93. Learn exactly where to touch your man to give him the mind-blowing orgasm he really wants.

94. Learn a few dirty words in a new language and surprise him with your knowledge.

95. Use kitchen utensils for new sensations – the tines of the fork, or the whir of the whisk.

96. When he least expects it, dance for him in your underwear.

97. Challenge each other to having sex all day long. How many times can you come?

98. Invest in a remote controlled vibrator…and give him the remote.

99. Listen to audio stories together and try to mimic what is happening in the story.

100. Call a phone sex hot line and go down on him while the operator teases him.

101. Feeling brave? Invite a friend over to watch the action!

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